Life can take quite unexpected turns. It is amazing at how time apart can really pull 2 people back together. In 2008 I thought I married the best person in the world. Well..... come to find out when you have two strong headed people trying to live together in a new state (he was in the military) it just doesn't work well. He was stuck in his ways, I was stuck in my ways, and neither one of us would budge on how we thought. We wanted the other person to change to how we wanted or expected them to be. Needless to say.... almost exactly 2 years later we were divorced. Now, we did stay in touch and we did connect from time to time for the next several years. He dated other people, I tried to date other people but we both found ourselves wanting each other again.
In 2013, we seriously started seeing each other again and he then got out of the military and moved back in with me, my son and daughter. It wasn't easy..... We still had our ways set, but the time apart made us realize that we also had to work together and not against each other. He found a good job within just a few short months of being out of the military (I was prepared to join him again if he stayed in with my new mindset). We talked through our issues (sometimes yelled) and seem to have a better bond than ever. So April of 2016 we decided to tie the knot again and start all over as a family. Phew..... It was a long road but we finally did it and are a family of 4.
With his job we decided to move into Indiana so he was a little closer to work and not an hour away. Now he is only 15 minutes away. We moved a few months after we got married last year and it was the best decision we have made. Both the kids have made great new friends and they both have grown up so much. Our son is now 13 (holy cow a teenager) and our daughter is 6 (going on 36). I was so worried that the kids wouldn't adjust and then I would have wild children who got in trouble and hung out with the wrong people. A parent's worst fear is their kids getting in the wrong crowd!
Our life isn't all flowers and butterflies, there is wind and fire added in, but we are making it work together and not against each other so the fire will burn steady, instead of being a massive forest fire that destroys everything. Our love for our kids and each other is keeping us focused and ready for our adventures. Let me tell you, with a teenage boy we have an adventure everyday!
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